Whenever we do anything in life, there are consequences; in other words, there are results. And, our interpretation of these results, to a large degree, determines the direction that our life takes. I think that all of us can agree that there are actually only a few results that happen in any given situation. This article will briefly look at these results, possible interpretations, and probable directions based upon the interpretations.
Whenever you do something, one of the following things will happen:
1. You Get What You Want.
2. You Don't Get What You Want.
3. You Get What You Don't Want (this is likely a "subset" of result no. 2).
4. You Get What You Want, But It Is Not What You Thought It Would Be.
We are now going to look at each of these "results", what they really mean, and hopefully begin to shift your interpretations in a more positive direction to thereby give you more positive direction.
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2. You Don't Get What You Want. A little more perplexing this time, isn't it? You got something, but it wasn't the outcome that you had desired. So, what do you do? Is this where frustration begins to set in, and you begin to put your focus on the negative? Or, do you look at this as a lesson? In other words, do you look at this as a way of learning something new that may help you in the future and may very well help to bring you your actual desired result?
This would be a more resourceful perspective, wouldn't it? A perspective that allows you to learn and grow and try new things will obviously be more resourceful than a perspective of frustration and negativity. If you look at successful people, you'll see that they usually look at every situation as being a lesson of sorts; good or bad, they glean what new information they can from each outcome and move forward from there.
3. You Get What You Don't Want. As noted above, this is a "subset" of No. 2. In this instance, you get something, but it's not the result or outcome that you had desired. Again, the resourceful way of looking at these outcomes is to learn all you can from them and continue on your path toward your desires.
4. You Get What You Want, But It Is Not What You Thought It Would Be. Here, you achieve your desired result, but are perhaps let down by what the experience turns out to be. This, as you've probably guessed, is another lesson. Perhaps what happened was that you weren't very clear on what you wanted. You thought you were, but, somewhere along the way, you didn't quite understand what it was. Or, it may be that you were completely misinformed (for whatever reason) on the details of what you wanted and how it actually was.
Again, learn all you can from this lesson and move forward.
The bigger point with all of this is that we need to shift our perspectives from negative to positive and resourceful. By looking at outcomes from a more resourceful viewpoint, we allow ourselves to increase the ability in which we learn things about ourselves and our actions. So, the next time you do anything, and it turns out however it turns out, use these four outcomes (and their respective resourceful perspectives) to help move you closer to your desired results.
Do You Get What You Want?